Sometimes, you just gotta let the flood gates down…and, I am not normally a big cryer. Motherhood does that. If you are like me, you tend to bottle up. Being a mom of 4 can be chaotic and overwhelming at times. It’s always something really stupid that sets you off. Your kids look at you like your head is going to spin off. Shocked that you have hit a wall and can’t hold back anymore. I usually end up yelling, slamming a door or two and then the crying comes. Why? Because you can’t believe you have to get so mad before they stop and listen. As a mom, you often feel unheard. You get rolled eyes, flip comments or just pure sass. I have a pretty long fuse but look out. Mama has had enough. I think it’s so funny how they scurry around when I am mad and they try to look busy cleaning something. They hunker down like, they are in a bomb shelter waiting out the battle. We all survive and move forward until the next time. Believe it or not, they do get better, they learn to handle conflict. So, though it makes you nuts, it makes them better prepared for the conflicts they will navigate in the world. Battle on Mama’s, and don’t forget to allow yourself the good cry.
Makes 4 servings
Per serving: 1 Lean protein, 3 Greens and 2.5 Condiments
•15 oz cooked lean ground beef ~ about 21 oz raw (3 Leans)
•1/4 cup onion, diced (4 Condiments)
•2 tsp garlic, minced (2 Condiments)
•1 1/2 cups green peppers, chopped (3 Greens)
•1 (14.5oz) can Great Value Italian diced tomatoes, drained (3 1/2 Greens)
•1 cup no sugar added marinara sauce (>5g carb/serving) (4 Greens)
•3/4 cup cauliflower rice (1 1/2 Greens)
•1 tbsp soy sauce (1 Condiment)
•1/2 teaspoon salt (2 Condiments)
•1/4 teaspoon pepper (1/2 Condiment)
•1 cup shredded part-skim mozzarella cheese (1 Lean)
In a large skillet over medium high heat, add ground beef, onion, and garlic. Cook until browned.
Add the rest of the ingredients except the mozzarella cheese. Stir to combine. Transfer mixture into a casserole baking dish.
Cover with aluminum foil and bake at 350 degrees for 35 to 40 minutes.
Take out of the oven, sprinkle mozzarella cheese on top and bake an additional 5 to 10 minutes or until cheese melts. Divide into 4 equal servings.
If freezing for later, do not add the mozzarella cheese until you are about to bake it. Thaw overnight in the refrigerator and then bake at 350 degrees for about 35 to 40 minutes covered. Add cheese and bake an additional 5 to 10 minutes or until cheese melts.
This week I took a trip! A “me time” trip with my best girlfriend! But of course, right before leaving, I got those familiar old feelings of “mommy guilt”. Drat! I hate that I do that to myself! We think for some reason we do not deserve to get away and be selfish! We do deserve it! We cannot forget about the woman beneath the Mama! It took me years to get that. I still get the mommy guilt but just quickly squash it now because we as moms give, sacrifice and compromise daily, and that’s our job as mothers…and we wouldn’t change a thing, but we absolutely deserve to reacquaint with ourselves. We are still woman who need friends, getaways and me time, whatever you need to fill your bucket. Depriving yourself of that only leads to resentment and it will come out and make you miserable.
I am recharged on a new level today because I gave myself the gift of a getaway. Sometimes you will only be able to give yourself an hour or a day, but you must make yourself a priority and tend to what makes you tick.
The best part of the getaway has been the face time calls from my kids telling me how much they miss me! 💜 I am looking forward to getting home to squish them. It’s good for them to miss you and be reminded of how great their mommy is!
I have rediscovered this week my love for reading. I can’t wait to get a summer reading list together and carve out time for it at home. What are you reading? Share in The comments! Take care of you!
💜 ~Wise Owl Mama
I’m currently raising my 3rd fifteen year old boy, but 4th fifteen year old total. This one has broadened my halo of gray hair that is hidden beneath these blonde highlights. I will say, from my seasoned perspective that as far as 15 yr olds go…boys are harder. Girls….at 16, dear lord, that is a whole other story. There’s a hump you have to get over with boys. The hump is “Who’s smarter in the end?” They think they are, and because they believe that so concretely, you are in for a battle. You have to willfully change their mind. I have battle scars from wounds that go deep, but let me tell you that if you survive, and you will, you will find your way back to that sweet boy that always lit up when you walked into the room. Yes!!! They will light up again without the eye-roll.
I have learned by the 3rd boy that I have to dig my heels in just as deep as they do. That it is okay, that for a while, he frankly, doesn’t like me much. Often times, I want to throw my arms around him and squeeze him so tight that I squish the ornery right out of him, however, I know realistically that it’s time to hold hard to the boundaries I have set for him. Sometimes, I will have to not believe him even though he may be telling the truth “this time”. Sometimes, you just won’t know, because he’s lost your trust. He needs to earn it back and he will, only to disappoint you again. It’s a battle of wills at this point. You have to out will him. The other side of your heart has to create balance. He needs to know that you unconditionally adore him and you forgive, and move forward giving him the opportunity to try to prove to you he can be trusted. Some take a while to let down the wall. Some get it quick.
My final boy and me? We are a work in progress, and some days I feel like he’s winning but he’s worth fighting for. I will raise good humans with good morals, values, compassion for others and self respect. Impulse control is imperative for them to get under control. Raising teenagers is scary, but so much fun. Stay tuned.
Welcome to my momworld. I’d love to introduce myself. I’m Amy. I’m really important to four special humans that I am blessed to call mine. I am a SAHM of three unique boys and one very tough sweet girl. Two in college and two in High School. All adopted as babies, Day one in the world. I have been married 25 years to and engineer, which by gawd is quite an achievement in itself, because engineers,of course, have all the answers. Right?
I have been Momming for over 20 years now. Preceded by 5 years of every kinda infertility effort possible. The stars were aligned for my hubby & I to be adoptive parents. That story can be viewed in my previous blog Mommie or Bust!! https://mommieorbust.blogspot.com/?m=1
I must tell you that without chocolate and girlfriends living the same crazy mayhem that is Momming, uh…I’d be in a nut house. On This journey to mommy hood, I have fiercely struggled, I have overcome so many challenges in Momming. I seriously have floundered like a fish out of water and often, not knowing whether I was on the right track, forged ahead blindly and frequently felt defeated. However…. I never quit trying to be better. Becoming a great mother is a work in progress and it never ends. I think at some point, I thought it had an end, but, shocker… it doesn’t. I believe very strongly that we will never stop learning until we leave the planet. I believe the key, is to learn from your mistakes, dust yourself off, know when to compromise, know when to dig your heels in and to stand firm, and most definitely remember there is no perfect. I have often been touted by my friends and family as a really good listener and problem solver. I have learned to openly share my feelings and experiences and I hope you enjoy. Good, bad, ugly and the Triumphs!!!!!! I want to create a place for sharing and a place to know that you are not alone and you’re not crazy! Please join me as I do get a little sarcastic but, my goal is to share my wisdom. Comments and questions are encouraged. Form below! Let’s Gooooooo! 👇🏻